1. What could be the various meanings of the title Digging Out? In what different ways was Alys buried? What tools does she use to "dig out"?

2. Alys discovers her deceased husband, Marc, has had a child out of wedlock. Based on what we learn about him in the book, what do you think this tells about his character? What does Alys' reaction say about her? Can you imagine why Marc's affair may be partly a reaction to Alys' behavior?

3. In some ways Parry is the most passionate figure in Alys' life. How does the loss of this dark "hero" color, or not color, Alys' relationship with men?

4. How does the early loss of Hallie affect Alys' ability to form strong bonds with other women her age? What role does female friendship play in her adult life? Might stronger, deeper bonds with women help her other relationships?

5. Should Alys and Evan get married? If yes, where should they live?