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Discussion Questions

The Guru Next Door: A Teacher

1. How does the unhappiness of the people in Annie’s life affect how she sees the world and herself? What are they teaching her about herself and her role in their own unhappiness? Can Annie avoid following in their footsteps?

2. Why was Annie’s relationship with Bruce so transformative for her? What is Bruce teaching her that is so essential to her ability to be happy? Did you ever know a person in your life who helped you see the world in a completely different way? How did it change your life?

3. How did Bruce’s teachings affect you? What did you like about them and what troubled you? Did it affect the way you think about happiness and unhappiness?

4. A key theme is the book is the ability to be happy regardless of our history and circumstances. We see Annie making choices to think differently from her family members. What are some of these choices? Did they inspire you? Was there a cost to Annie in thinking differently than her family?

5. Annie loves her mother tremendously in spite of all her frailities. We see Annie showing true compassion even when her mother abandons her. How does Annie explain her love for her mother? How did you feel about it?

6. When Annie tries to break away from her mother, she keeps getting drawn back in. With the help of Bruce’s teachings, Annie finds the understanding she needs to go her own way. What did she understand about her mother and herself that gave her this freedom?

7. In learning about the Option Method, did you see possibilities for how you could be happier in your own life?

8. In the book, God and happiness are closely related. What’s the connection that Bruce makes between God and happiness? Did you like this way of thinking?

9. Death, and other kinds of loss, are prominent themes throughout the book. What does the story tell us about death and loss and its impact on our lives? How did the different characters in the book deal with these issues? What were the key differences? Do you think it is significant that the author chose to start and end the book with Bruce’s death?

10. Why do you think the author chose a child to tell Bruce’s story and illustrate his teachings? Did Annie’s journey make you think about your own childhood and how it could have been different? How so?

The Guru Next Door: A Teacher
by Wendy Dolber

  • Publication Date: March 10, 2008
  • Paperback: 266 pages
  • Publisher: Dialogues in Self Discovery LLC
  • ISBN-10: 1934450006
  • ISBN-13: 9781934450000