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Discussion Questions

Hats & Eyeglasses

1. In the Frankel house, groups of family and friends were often gathered together playing cards in the living room or cooking potato latkes in the kitchen. Talk about what it was in your house that brought people together.

2. From an early age, Martha sought out the company of her father, uncles, and her boy cousins --- she played cards with them, she leaned to read the Racing Form so she could impress them at the track, she learned sports rules so she could watch with the men. And yet she was also very close with her mother and aunts. Discuss how she straddled those two different worlds, and how you’ve done it in your own life, with your career and your children, or your husband and your mother, etc.

3. What did the expression “hats and eyeglasses” mean in the Frankel family? Does your family have any family sayings or expressions? What are they?

4. When her father dies, Martha and her mother don’t really know how to bridge the gap that his death leaves. Talk about how hats and eyeglasses start to float up around them, and how they deal with it. Talk about if you have felt similarly adrift at different times in your life.

5. When Martha learns poker, she becomes obsessed with the game. Has that ever happened to you, and with what? How do you keep your obsessions from becoming addictions?

6. When Lefty is caught cheating, it leads to lots of pain for everyone in the weekly poker game. Talk about how someone else’s misdeeds or betrayal have affected you and your friends or family. Consider how you might have responded if you had been the one to catch Lefty cheating.

7. Have you ever had to tell a loved one something so terrible that you were sure you would lose their love and respect? Were you ever so ashamed you wouldn’t dare tell anyone something about your life? How did that affect you?

8. What did you think of the relationship between Martha and her mother? Was your mother anything like Sylvia? And would you have wanted her to be?

9. What did you think about how Martha finally told Steve and her family about what she had done by giving them the manuscript for this book?

10. If you were faced with a loved one’s addiction or deception, how would you react? Would you have been as accepting as Martha’s husband, Steve or would it have been harder for you to forgive?

Hats & Eyeglasses
by Martha Frankel

  • Publication Date: February 11, 2009
  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Tarcher
  • ISBN-10: 1585426970
  • ISBN-13: 9781585426973